We have a simple home(1 floor. 1bath. 2rooms) We live in a calm neighborhood, we don’t own extremely expensive things. And he wants a camera inside our home? For what? This camera can also record audio. We have a child together, we work and we come home. Why do we neeed a camera inside? I feel like it’s an invasion of privacy! I love being silly inside our home. I love yelling. I love singing annoyingly when I’m alone. Should I feel disrespected? Should he feel disrespected? He’s bringing out the “what do you have to hide card”.
See a counselor together. There’s obviously something causing a trust issue, and it’s probably completely minor. A counselor can help you sort it out. My wife and I saw one years ago and it was awesome. We’re on a great path now but often I wish we still saw one with some regularity.
Your analogy about the phone is spot on. You’re not doing anything wrong but do you really want someone seeing your search history about “how long do hemorrhoids last?” Hell nah.
This question belongs in r/relationships I think.
I had the desire for cameras inside and outside cause live in not the worst but not the greatest area. My SO had no real issues with it so we went for it. A few weeks later I noticed myself going into a deep state of depression and it took me a while to realize that the inside cameras was making me very uneasy, feeling like I was being watched. Being a veteran with PTSD there were likely other things that contributed and made the matter even worse but really I felt like I wasn’t even living in my own home. I started tip-toeing, opening/closing doors slowly, and being as quiet as possible just for example. In retrospect this all feels a little dramatic but beforehand I never considered any of that being a possibility and it ended up making me feel a way I didn’t like of course. You need to talk with (not “at”) your SO about what they want and why they want it and then express your concerns whether that’s your feelings, emotions, safety, and/or something different with your SO. Discuss how there could be impacts not yet realized too. There is compromise here if some level of psychological safety is practiced on both ends.
I understand OPs hesitations.
I have done the following
- camera firmwares have been tweaked and are now local only and stream to my Home Server and all other access from other devices is blocked
- external access only via VPN. No Apps, no cloud etc
- notifications are sent over the cloud but hold only an alert, no Screenshots
- cameras are turned off when me or my partner are within 100m of our home. I did this with a simple USB switch so the cameras are getting no power at all.
- persistent notifications Camera On on different devices.
- using a good Firewall and a SIEM to monitor devices, traffic and access.
Maybe OP would be OK with a similar setup. I had wanted to use cams for presence and person detection but my partner vetoed that pretty quick.
I have found great relief being able to remotely connect and make sure things are ‘OK’. For example, we were away during a tornado. Another time, my hot water heater leak alarm went off, I was able to log in and verify that it was a false alarm.
Out of respect for my partner, I keep the mics off, unless I specifically turn them on to check.
She’s hiding something
Have you asked him why he wants this?
Outside only I reckon. No need, unless you are away on holiday. Otherwise set it up so it turns off when you are home and only comes on when you leave, so it’s a security camera then. Why does he want it?
Hahaha someone is cheating 😭
talk to him?
I would be against it personally. That said one that covers the entry way might be acceptable but would be better if it was out side.
Now if you had it installed and only used it when everyone was out side of the house that could be reasonable as well. Personally I doubt it’s to spy on you just wants a way to know whats going on when no one is home.
Outside cameras are easier to mess with though.
Like I’ve got one inside me office that sits in the window facing outside. Everyone outside can very easily see it and I’ve literally watched people notice it and then leave our property. The cameras outside are much easier to block, break, or steal to avoid being seen…
Same. We have an indoor camera sitting on the ledge of a big ass window AND a doorbell camera. The doorbell cam doesn’t phase many people but the little blue light that came on the indoor cam definitely alerted someone who was coming to look into our living room while we were sleeping. She signaled her friends in the bushes and took off running.
Too bad for the poster with the water leak concerns.
They would only find out once the water starts pouring out under the doors.
You could put a water sensor down there and keep your privacy in tact.
For what?
Just ask lol
Also because I’m curious, what brand? Does it work with any existing automation or security systems you have?
I love singing annoyingly when I’m alone.
He won’t see unless he goes through all of the clips which would take forever
I always figured all parties need to be OK with where cameras can record. Anybody gets to veto and they don’t have to justify it.
My partner wasn’t cool with a camera in the garage. Seemed weird to me but whatever, camera was removed.
The “What do you have to hide?” thing is annoying. You don’t have to justify why, when, where you want privacy. It’s your home, you should feel entirely safe and comfortable there.
Could be as simple as wanting to sneak in gifts from the car honestly. Not everything being hidden is malicious, people have the right to privacy and autonomy.
Maybe it’s just me, but my primary concern with this is actually the child. I don’t think it’s wise to video a child in their own home, they aren’t an adult and cannot consent. There are SO many things wrong with husband wanting to do this, but the one thing that sticks out is the kiddo.
sounds like you’re just looking for someone to tell you to be offended and that you’re correct. it’s kinda weird, not really the place for that
Why the hell are you asking social media if you should offended by something?