Welcome to the Melbourne Community Daily Discussion Thread.

  • Sir_ListerOfSmeg@aussie.zone
    23·
    1 year ago

    Thought someone had died at their desk at work today.

    Found them unresponsive slumped over their desk and had to call ambos.

    Worked out okay in the end but jeebus what a day!!!

    Never a dull moment at this job

  • eye82much@aussie.zone
    20·
    1 year ago

    My boss just tried to talk to me about The Ashes and I just stared at him completely uncomprehending of what any of his words meant. “howaboutthatfourthtest”, he said as he passed my desk, with absolutely NO CONTEXT. Cue me being like what test? Are we testing something? Are we testing ME?

  • PeelerSheila @aussie.zone
    17·
    1 year ago

    Ugh. Mr Peeler has yet another speeding fine. I pay his rego, insurance, give him petrol money each week so he can at least pick up the kids from school, I paid his last (how many!) fines because he didn’t even ring up to arrange instalments… I just can’t even. I get that he’s dyslexic etc. But fucking hell! I’m not paying this one, fuck it. I’m working hard and trying to save so we can have things and he’s just pissing around. The other day he was late picking up the kids because he just “popped in” to a mate’s place in the afternoon and “had a whiskey,” then found himself stuck in traffic. Wtf is he even doing drinking before picking up the kids?! I’m fucking relying on this fuck!

    Just getting it out of me before I get home or it’ll come out in an angry rush which will in turn make him angry, defensive or both, and the kids will be right there exposed to it all. Thanks for listening.

    • Electronic_Owl@aussie.zone
      13·
      1 year ago

      None of my business of course, but the relationship seems a bit unbalanced? You seem to be covering his expenses (and his arse)…what does he contribute, is he working? I used to be the major breadwinner in our 24 year relationship, but things took a turn about 10 years ago and, because of things, now I’m not. There’s not a day when I don’t think about that, and I do everything I can to be a worthy contributor to the household even if not financially.

    • StudSpud The Starchy@aussie.zone
      8·
      1 year ago

      No offense, I like and respect you, but you may need to have a verbal smackdown with old mate. It’s hard because he’s dad too, but yeah, he needs to pull his head in. Apologies for the tone. 💜 💜

    • Outlier1031@aussie.zone
      8·
      1 year ago

      Mr Peeler better like sleeping on the couch or better yet, outside because this is some bullshit. Being dyslexic or whatever isn’t an excuse for the shitty behaviour he is displaying. And drinking before picking up the kids? Absolutely fuck that noise. He needs a good kick up the arse. If you don’t do it, he’s going to continue to behave irresponsibly. Don’t vent to us to get it out so you’re calmer when you get home. You need to unleash hell on him and set some boundaries because right now he is walking all over you. Sorry to be harsh but I just hate seeing good people get treated like shit.

    • just_kitten@aussie.zone
      6·
      1 year ago

      Yikes. I don’t know the whole context but he needs to take some responsibility and accountability here from what you’ve described.

    • Duenan@aussie.zone
      6·
      1 year ago

      Damn, I remember when you mentioned the last one you had to pay.

      Not to really add any more to what everyone else has already said but he mustn’t have many demerit points left either?

      I hope he realises what this is doing to your household and what would happen if he gets his license suspended?

    • Hongohones@aussie.zone
      3·
      1 year ago

      Fuck. I’m so sorry you have to put up with this crap. You could potentiaaly think about seeing a relationsip counsellor or mediator. You need to be heard and his disrespect toward you needs to stop.

  • Taleya@aussie.zone
    171·
    1 year ago

    working on weaponising my ASD contrariness and defining my anxiety as being a stupid screeching monkey. Note that I am not stupid, the anxiety is a literal panicking monkey pulling on my hair and trying to make me do stupid things. Yes bitch. I am othering you. Because I do not like others trying to make me do shit (panic) that makes no sense because they’re idiots who want herd validation for their idiocy.

    see how this works.

    • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
      5·
      1 year ago

      Feels. I fight my stupid brain everyday.

      This is called self awareness. Might be worthwhile to watch Monkey on Netflix. Each of the animal spirits depicted are an aspect of human nature. Monkey is clever but also a bit wild. Clever monkey tries hard to control wild monkey but the nature of monkey is irrepressible. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J-SUoHmpRdM

      I think I’ll watch a version of it. It always makes me a kinder gentler person ( but still ready to fight if I must )

  • Electronic_Owl@aussie.zone
    14·
    1 year ago

    TIL of the 4th Earl of Sandwich (via this thread). This excerpt from his Wikipedia page sounds like someone Aussies will be familiar with:

    Sandwich retired in 1782. Despite holding a number of important posts during his career, Sandwich’s incompetence and corruption were legendary, inspiring the saying: “Seldom has any man held so many offices and accomplished so little.”

    Hi ScoMo!

  • StudSpud The Starchy@aussie.zone
    14·
    1 year ago

    Okay so I’m thinking I might wear my purple cardigan with black pants to my interview tomorrow. That cardigan has been super lucky with making a good impression on people, fingercrossed it comes through for me again!

    However, today it’s black leggings, brown shorts, and brown t-shirt (with jacket and beanie, of course), and let me tell you I’m feeling MIGHTY CUTE ✨️💖

    /endoffirstworldthoughts /broughttoyoubyStudChud

    Edit: the wind the wind! Changed from shorts to jeans* over my leggings. Function over form, woman!

    *imstillatotalhottiesoitsokay

    • Nath@aussie.zone
      7·
      1 year ago

      My biggest complaint about clothing in Melbourne was that everyone (well, most people) wore blacks and greys all winter. I made it a point of being as colourful as I could be within that ‘professional’ dress code. Bright red backpack, purple scarf, assorted colours for beanies/gloves - contrasting against the black shoes/pants/jacket that I wore for work.

      Purple would be a winner in my books!

    • Hongohones@aussie.zone
      2·
      1 year ago

      Yeah purple is a fruit. My new almost favourite t is purple and says fux war. yadda yadda it’s a kyiv indie label shirt and I never miss an opportunity to spruik them.

  • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
    13·
    1 year ago

    People don’t appreciate the process of chips.

    They’re hard work and when you order them you’re like ‘they’re just chips’. But they’re not. just… chips. It’s a process.

    • wscholermann@aussie.zone
      7·
      1 year ago

      Thing is I’m not actually shocked anymore. Yet another shooting. Honestly I think inside I have switched off a bit, perhaps as a coping mechanism from the constant stream of bad news emanating from the media.

      • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
        6·
        1 year ago

        Years ago only local news would be reported, maybe some international news and news was just on in the evening or what we read in the morning paper. Now it’s news from everywhere, and truly most is not relevant to us, and all the time. It’s insane.

        Switch off the 24 hour news cycle.

        And switch off 24 hour news notifications on your mobile too. Look at the news and weather in the morning, that’s it.

        After years of stressing myself out I have come to the conclusion if something is personally important I will get a letter, a knock at the door or a personal message or phone call. No point worrying too much otherwise.

        • the_procrastinata@aussie.zone
          2·
          1 year ago

          I like keeping across news and current events, although I definitely acknowledge the mental health impact of always consuming negative media.

          • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
            2·
            1 year ago

            I keep up too, I read the national headlines and international newspapers. I don’t get notifications for anything. I don’t watch news shows at all. Surprisingly I’m still alive even though I don’t watch abc or sbs tv news or any of them. 😉

  • batarians@aussie.zone
    12·
    1 year ago

    Thank you everyone for the birthday love yesterday 🥰 Ended up feeling a bit down because I had an awful day at work, and on top of that I didn’t hear from any of my friends (which I’m not taking personally, but I was already in a bit of a mood lol). Husband took me to a nice Argentinian place in Black Rock for dinner and we finished with some cake at home in our PJs, so all in all it ended up being a pretty good birthday.

  • Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone
    12·
    1 year ago

    Have been in WA this week getting training for the new role. Everyone has been really friendly and welcoming which has been great! I miss fluffybutt :( One more day and I’m back.

  • melbourne_wanderer@aussie.zone
    11·
    1 year ago

    i genuinely love the relationship that (I think) Australia and NZ have with each other. Sure, there’s competitiveness, but when push comes to shove it takes a back seat to how close we are (geographically and socially). I loved watching the Ferns win tonight, and I epecially loved the moment between the Aboriginal and Maori elders before the Matildas match jist now.

    Some random thoughts.

    • just_kitten@aussie.zone
      6·
      1 year ago

      I thought I’d get some movement in and walk to the cafe for a cuppa (which is a 22 minute walk each way jeez gotta love these car dependent suburbs). Stepped outside to right a potted magnolia that toppled over. Came right back in and ain’t stepping outside if I don’t have to. 10C feels like 0C no thanks.

        • just_kitten@aussie.zone
          3·
          1 year ago

          At the rate the wind was going the bins would’ve collected themselves. Maybe at the wrong house, but they would’ve been moved anyhow…

    • Duenan@aussie.zone
      4·
      1 year ago

      It’s a whole lot worse today because it’s brought on by wind chill which can penetrate clothing.

      and now I’m feeling cold in the office :(

  • jaybb3rw0cky@aussie.zone
    11·
    1 year ago

    I know that it’s natural, and there’s possibly a reason to it, psychologically speaking… but can I just say, fuck anticipatory grief. I know it’s not its fault, but holy fuck it sucks to hurt so much before the actual event. And more so when it affects your loved ones so much.

    • Duenan@aussie.zone
      6·
      1 year ago

      There’s also the unpredictability of how you’ll feel when the event comes to pass. It’s not really something you can control no matter how prepared you think you are for it.

      I’m so sorry to hear about it and hope you and your loved ones will be ok.

      • jaybb3rw0cky@aussie.zone
        7·
        1 year ago

        That’s why anticipatory grief seems so fucking redundant on the surface, you know? Because ultimately you’re going to go through the grief anyway, so why suffer twice? But yet here it is. And you’re so right… everyone’s reactions have been different now. I can only imagine what it’s going to be like later…

        • Thornburywitch@aussie.zone
          5·
          1 year ago

          Be very wary of the rage/anger at other people’s denial of what seems clearly obvious to you. That can trip one up and start whole new rounds of unnecessary suffering - for the living.

    • Thornburywitch@aussie.zone
      5·
      1 year ago

      This relates to yesterday’s post re cat? Feels. Sometime knowing in advance is just as bad as being hit by surprise or accident. Be gentle with yourself.

      • jaybb3rw0cky@aussie.zone
        3·
        1 year ago

        Nah, it’s hooman related. But yeah, it’s a paradox of a sorts. Is it better to have them go quickly or watch them slowly fade?

        • Thornburywitch@aussie.zone
          10·
          1 year ago

          Speaking here as someone who watched their long term partner (30 years plus) slowly fade out over 2 1/2 years, unconscious and probably brain dead after unsuccessful heart/stroke surgery. I would not hesitate to choose a quick resolution. Then you can let yourself grieve. I was fortunate in that this drawn out agony happened to me during the lockdowns, so I had no outside responsibilities that I HAD to get off my arse for. But the preceding year or so before lockdowns, when I had to pretend to be OK and keep up with things while not knowing when the situation would resolve - that was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. And every bastard that told me that I was fortunate that my partner was still alive - I would boil them in oil if I could remember their names. Possibly their children as well. My partner was NOT fortunate to be barely alive and unconscious/unresponsive. I wanted him back - as he should be, not as a - well - a vegetable. The day that a drug resistant staph infection took him out was both the worst and best day of my life so far. I still don’t really know how I feel about that. Grief counselling can only do so much, but it does help a bit. At least then you know what everyone else expects of you and can adjust communications accordingly. One’s real feelings take much longer to identify let alone resolve. And I made a sacred promise many years ago to never tell lies to myself. Conventional reactions and emotions can go to hell but are sometimes necessary to express to outsiders so that they go away and stop bothering you.

          • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
            6·
            1 year ago

            I’m so sorry.

            After my FiL died a few weeks later I just burst out crying one time cos I knew the horrible domestic abuse he had been enduring was over. ( yes, we intervened but he didn’t even think he was abused ) I think it’s normal and good to want suffering to be over. Of course, we rather the suffering never happened at all but we can’t stop everything.

          • jaybb3rw0cky@aussie.zone
            5·
            1 year ago

            Thank you for this response… and I’m so sorry for the experiences you had to endure. I can definitely see where you’re coming from regarding the idea of “quick or drawn out (but hey, they’re still here! Chin up!)”…

            Life really can take torture and cruelty to another level when it wants, huh? I think what I’m finding as well is conflicting priorities. Some want to keep on fighting, knowing that it could make things far worse, but there’s a chance that maybe it’ll work. A small percent, but I can understand why people grasp at what they can. Then there’s the resignation, the acceptance… they’re all different parts of grief but are competing against one another. This isn’t some work project, either. It’s a person’s life. And there’s no right and wrong answers and everyone’s just trying to find out more and it’s like… maybe things are the way they are for a reason, you know?

            But thank you for your words. It puts things into perspective in some realistic ways and I guess that’s all that can be sought for here, is some clarity, some further understanding.

    • stardustingss@aussie.zone
      4·
      1 year ago

      Oh I feel you in this one. Went through it myself. In a way we were relieved to just have it all be over, as devastated as we still were.

      • jaybb3rw0cky@aussie.zone
        2·
        1 year ago

        I’ve been around death a fair bunch but this one hits differently in that it’s very close to home while I’m more in a position to be supportive compared to when I was a lot younger and didn’t really have the mental maturity to help. And as much as you don’t want to call attention to it, it’s as you said, the relief that the suffering and what not will cease.