After a suicide attempt and seeing a psychiatrist I was told I probably have avpd. I lurk on Reddit, and checked out the avpd subreddit. My god. I found people just like me. It’s not depression. It’s not social anxiety. I’m not autistic. It’s just a complete… inability to create friendships. I’m just broken.

I’m so full of shame for the way I was brought up, and for where I am in life now. I just can’t connect with people. Why would any one want me as a friend? I don’t want me as a friend. I can’t keep doing this. It’s not fair… I can’t meet people because I’m 100% sure they’ll find me repulsive. I came from an idiotic cult-like family. Didn’t get sent to school. Never had a friend. Spent years as a NEET. Past few years I’ve had a job, and I’m trying to break out, but it’s just clearly highlighted how far away from the normal I am. It’s soul destroying. There’s no catching-up, because I’m just broken. I quit. I need help, but no one seems to be able to.

I’be been told to ask customer-service workers how their day’s been, as social skills practice by my therapist. I’ve done it, and it’s awkward or gets shut down with one word answers. I know they’re busy and DON’T want to talk to me. I’m harrassing people at their jobs.

I’m dead on the inside, but it still hurts. Even if they know nothing about me they can detect my sever depressed mood. No one likes that. It’s repulsive.

Posting here because I get shadow-banned on Reddit for protecting my privacy (using tor), and because I’m a free software advocate.

I’m running out of money. I dread getting another low skilled job to donate all my wages to a landlord so I can have a freindless hole to waste away in. I’m so close to trying again. A different method this time. As I got older I’ve realised the only worthwhile thing in life are relationships. Ironic. I hate this. I can’t do this anymore. I was a mistake. I need to die. I make everything worse. I’ve never wanted to be here. No time in my life have I ever been happy to be alive. Fuck this. Fuck my retarded parent. What the fuck were they thinking.

vent vent vent vent it doesn’t get better.

Can we create a group of avpd and… form friendships? You’re right. What was I thinking.

    • qW7xXbu5J@lemmy.worldOP
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      11 months ago

      Day was wasted. Planned to go swimming, but just sat at the beach for 3 hours. The beach was too crowded. Went to the skatepark after and twisted my ankle trying a new trick. Plans doen’t really exist in my world. I’m spending time with my niece until I run out of money, in which case I’ll disappear.

      • Zeth0s@lemmy.world
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        11 months ago

        Nice, beach and skating. Yeah, it sucks for the ankle. But it happens trying new things. What trick are you trying to learn? How long does it take to recover and start skating again?

        • qW7xXbu5J@lemmy.worldOP
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          11 months ago

          Axle stalls and 50 50 grinds. It varies. Sometimes my ankle doesn’t feel right for a week or two, but a few days out now and it feels pretty normal. Trying to get comfortable on the larger transitions.

  • Lafari@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    I got banned from Reddit and I don’t know why. The bot refused to tell me and ignored appeals while repeating the same automated message that I violated their code of conduct (not telling me what it was) and it doesn’t make sense. I really need a way to bypass this ban and access Reddit in order to get help from different communities that only have a presence on Reddit. I only use this site because I can’t access Reddit but not enough people use Lemmy to the point where many communities only exist on Reddit

    • qW7xXbu5J@lemmy.worldOP
      3·
      11 months ago

      Yea, Reddit really doesn’t like new accounts if their systems can’t link it to an existing ‘verified’ account. Not good for people who want a shred of privacy.

      It’s annoying. What can you do? I try and promote free software, but people just don’t care at all. The commercial platforms have revenue they can expend on advertising to grow their platform. It’s a game free software loses by default.