• Tar_Alcaran@sh.itjust.works
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    10 months ago

    I remember my husband-then-boyfriend being super happy he could just ask me to do stuff and I’d do it. I mean, yeah, of course, that’s how relationships work?

    Took me a long time to figure out that for most of his previous relationship, that really wasn’t so obvious.

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      10 months ago

      That’s pretty much my story as well. Early into the first healthy relationship I was in, my gf stopped by my work to drop me off a donut. Just happened to be shopping nearby and thought of me.

      That shit was outright mindblowing to me at the time considering I had a negative sense of self worth. Guess it still is to an extent, but I don’t get the overwhelming “oh God oh fuck I don’t deserve this” feeling I used to.

      E: sp