There’s usually a blocklist or two for whatever social media site you’re using that can help prune them out. I also try and make sure that the spaces I frequent, both online and offline, are explicitly pro-trans since it makes most bigots uncomfortable.

Tell them you look forward to seeing them on grindr

It takes too much energy I don’t have. Most folks like that aren’t moved by reason, and part of their end goal is to exhaust with a constant stream of BS. There are much more fruitful discussions to be had elsewhere.

I never used to be able to on twitter and Reddit. But then I experienced social media without them, and it was a revelation. It showed me just how toxic it was. And quite simply, I don’t want to have that toxicity in my life anymore, so I don’t feel compelled to engage

I don’t spend as much time online as I used to. Playing roller derby has helped me realize that these people do it most of the time because it’s easy to do while being somewhat anonymous. Us women don’t act like that with each other and the ones that do are typically kept out of reach with the Karens, the Christians, and the qanons. They’re all cut from the same blood libel, satanic panic cloth as it was from the 80s and 90s. I’d be more shocked if they had an original thought.

If the comment is obvious flame bait, nothing needs to be said.

However, if someone is making a bad argument that sounds compelling at a glance, I think it’s important to rebut. Not because you’re trying to convince the original poster to take on a new view - that’s highly unlikely. No, you’re talking to other people reading the thread.

I take it as my civic duty to enter into real debates against faulty reasoning.

I used to do that all the time especially on reddit. I try not to frequent online spaces that are welcoming or tolerant of any bigotry. I also spend a lot less time on social media than I used to. But that being said if I do see something on here thats bigoted in any way I will say something.