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        You can’t just walk into a doctors office and say My KiD wAnTs a GeNdEr ChAnGe and get surgery. That’s not how it fucking works. Go educate yourself, your ignorance is palpable.

        THE FACTS ABOUT GENDER-AFFIRMING CARE

        ●Every credible medical organization – representing over 1.3 million doctors in the United States – calls for age-appropriate gender-affirming care for transgender and non-binary people.

        ●Sexual orientation and gender identity are real concepts recognized by major medical and mental health associations — including the American Medical Association, the American Academy of Pediatrics, the American Psychological Association and the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry — as part of the normal spectrum of human experience.

        ●“Transition-related” or “gender-affirming” care looks different for every transgender and non-binary person.

        ●Parents, their kids, and doctors make decisions together, and no medical interventions with permanent consequences happen until a transgender person is old enough to give truly informed consent.

        ●Gender transition is a personal process that can include changing clothes, names, and hairstyles to fit a person’s gender identity. Some people take medication, and some do not; some adults have surgeries, and others do not. How someone transitions is their choice, to be made with their family and their doctor.

        ●Therapists, parents and health care providers work together to determine which changes to make at a given time are in the best interest of the child

        ●ALL gender-affirming care is:

        Age-appropriate

        Medically necessary

        Supported by all major medical organizations

        Made in consultation with medical and mental health professionals AND parents

        And in many cases, this care is lifesaving!

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          This video has someone who had surgery at 16 and isn’t happy about it. You can’t take the hard line of “ALL” when people like this exist, unless you’re going to use a No True Scotsman fallacy to dismiss anything that conflicts with your views.

          https://youtu.be/dl0LZZFos-g

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            I’m not going to trust the the AMA, or the APA, or any other accredited major medical institution. But I’ll trust Youtube.

            Holy. Fucking. Christ.

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              I never said I didn’t trust the AMA. You said “ALL”, in all caps, implying heavily that there are no exceptions to the statements you were making. That’s what I was objecting to. The only thing that certain in the medical field is that everyone who is born will one day die. For everything else, there are exceptions to everting. That’s what I was objecting to. The YouTube video was just a simple and quick example of one person who fell outside your box. Do I really need to show you a peer reviewed study that says a kid made a decision and changed their mind when they grew up? That’s every kid, it’s only a question of the thing they change their mind about.

              I’d think someone interested in these types of issues would be more willing to accept that not everyone fits into one standard way things are. Holy fucking christ indeed.

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                That “ALL” is literally, and simply, defining the guidelines of what gender affirming care is.

                You are far too dumb to continue arguing with. If simple reading comprehension is an issue for you, then there is no point arguing about the complexities of gender and identity.

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            You can’t take the hard line of “ALL” when people like this exist,

            I’m not taking the hard line of ‘ALL’, you muppet. I’m taking the same stance as over 1.3 million doctors in this country do: That this is a real problem for many and guidlines need to exist on how to handle it.

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            normalized group of people

            Have you heard of the Trevor Project? You realize that exposing queer kids to traditional “norms” harms individuals right?

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              I don’t know what you mean by the quote, “exposing”, “norms”, or “harms” in this context.

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                Exposing: make (something) visible by uncovering it.

                Norms: something that is usual, typical, or standard

                Your point seems to be that some teens are harmed because they’re impressionable and make mistakes as a result of being exposed to LGBTQ people in media and their peers. I’m sure there are and most of the time it’ll be typical blunder years of trying to find their identity just like previously mentioned goth phases. It’s also possible a few individuals will make a more dramatic mistake in getting surgery and regret it. That’s a dark reality. What you don’t seem to want to recognize though is that NOT showing LGBTQ people in media or public also harms kids. I would argue far, far more. Suicide rates are much higher amongst queer individuals because of social rejection, being made to feel shame or as other. I bring up the Trevor Project because it’s a national recognizable charity which means it serves a lot of people. As you may know this organization is dedicated to being a lifeline for LGBTQ people in crisis, particularly focused on kids. If you say teens can’t get reassignment surgery some will kill themselves. That is also a dark reality. I suspect, seeing as there’s a national hotline for it, that more kids are at risk being forced into the closet. Most people that make the arguments you’re making just value some lives and not others

                Here’s some reading if you care: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/survey-2022/

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                  I’m not saying lgbtq people should be locked away in a cave somewhere. I’m saying the current messaging I’m seeing is that if you want to be accepted, if you want to be a good person, identifying as something under the lgbtqia+ umbrella is the way to do it. It’s not the knowledge that there are other people out there, it’s the idea that this is the superior group to be apart of and everyone should want to be apart of it, and those who aren’t are less than. That’s the idea that I think goes too far and can push kids to make choice they wouldn’t otherwise make.

                  Suicide for any reason is tragic, and I suspect there are other things going on as well which could use professional help. It’s good things like the Trevor project exist to help with that. I know someone who works with them.

                  Speaking for myself. From around the age of 7 until sometime in college, then on and off after that for a bit, I thought there was some mistake and I should be a girl. I didn’t know that was a thing at the time, so I just tried to ignore it and told no one, though I thought about it a lot. I think it played a big role in my lack of confidence. Now that I’m all the way grown up, I’m pretty glad I wasn’t being raised in the current environment with it being pushed heavily and parents encouraging it. I could easily have seen myself going down that road and I don’t know what that process of realizing I was mistaken would have been like. Not a fun process I image. I still struggle with depression and anxiety, and if I was younger and seeing what is being shown today, I can see where I might think finding my identity is the answer… or at least something to try; I’ve tried everything else. So when I think about myself, I could see where the suicide rate would be higher. I’m depressed, I hear this can help, I try it, I’m still miserable… now what? It’s like the musicians that gets everything they thought they wanted, but still feels empty. I’m not saying that’s everything, just being honest about where I’m coming from.

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                    It sounds to me like you’re assuming too much about how a path you didn’t take would have turned out. It sounds like maybe this issue is too personal to be objective? Maybe you’re right, in 10 years we’ll have a lot more people upset about decisions they’re making today. We’re definitely going to get a few cases like the video you linked. I’m personally confident that the number of people who will be alive and happier because of acceptance being pushed right now will dwarf those harmed by it.

                    As someone who also suffers from anxiety and depression though I wish you luck. That emptiness sounds relatable and I hope the empathy of an internet stranger helps a little. If you’re anything like me it’s hard to be kind to yourself but you should be