• RegalPotoo@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    Unpopular (?) opinion - text/IM systems are asynchronous messaging systems, and in most cases it’s totally reasonable to not immediately jump on your phone and answer a message as soon as you get the notification.

    One of my friends is the sort of person who will stop mid sentence when their phone pings so they can answer whatever they’ve been sent and it drives me nuts

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        4 months ago

        Yeah my phone gets attention when i want, not when it wants.

        I have all notifications off for all apps too, i don’t need an app saying hey we haven’t fed you crap for an hour come look

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          My phone used to be on vibrate until i accidentally cut the motor during a repair. My phone suddenly became a healthier part of my life where i look at it when i feel like. I also miss every urgent message from everyone.

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        If I had my phone on silent I would miss a lot of important shit.

        But thankfully Android has excellent customization so I know without even pulling the phone out what is notifying and whether it needs to be addressed immediately or checked later.

        Notifications that are truly not high priority just get put on silent, which also shifts them to the bottom of my notifications.

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      4 months ago

      My wife is like that, and it kills me. I might leave your text unread for hours because if it was important, you’d call. I have priorities! Like the next round of Helldivers.

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        4 months ago

        I’ll never call. But I also understand that not everyone looks at their phone at all times.

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        4 months ago

        You’d call

        Does anyone call these days? Nobody seems to pick up for fuck all.

        I’ve received 158 calls in the last 7 days, and not one was a valid call. All spam and fraud.

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          4 months ago

          I send all unknown callers straight to voicemail. But I do frequently make/receive calls from family, friends, coworkers, etc. Probably a dozen/day. I like having a conversation.

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          I don’t know.

          Android is pretty damned good at filtering those. I usually have 1-2 a week that I have to send to the transcription service.

          The landline at work is a different story.

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          For some reason I don’t get spam calls. I’m just had to look and the last call I received about anything was on the 18th of February. Where are all my spam calls dammit, I’m missing out.

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          4 months ago

          I have had none in the last month. It’s the magic of not giving my number to anyone who does not absolutely require it.

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      4 months ago

      A relative does that, and sometimes completely forgets we were having a convo after they’re done with the phone

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      It’s unpopular because it’s so far removed from it’s closes analogue analogue, envelope mail. And because it’s on mobile phones people incorrectly assume it’s closer to a phone call.

      I find it’s simpler to simplify all internet scenarios to postal mail & home telephone scenarios.

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      4 months ago

      I feel so disengaged when someone does that to me that I just stop communicating with them in the future

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      4 months ago

      I always see the priority from highest to lowest as Calls, then texts then emails. Texts can be responded to immediately or later in the day, but more than ~4-8 hours is unacceptable