Inclusion is when everyone can be who they are and together you form a community. But that is not how inclusion seems to work in today’s world. It seems more to be about ‘participation’ which is like ‘adapt to our way of life so you can join us’. I am 54, and only since the past 7 years have I sought professional help (beyond psychologists, which I have had since I was 15). And in those 7 years I have noticed a disturbing pattern of something I can only describe as victim-blaming. It’s like they say “we have methods and systems, if they don’t work; well, that’s because of you.” The system seems built around avoidance of responsibility; pushing consequences down instead of up. They keep moving the goalposts and gaslight when you confront them. I don;t know how to deal with it anymore.
Sounds like people on a power trip making themselves feel better. I’ve been in professional mental health settings (autism is not my specialty at all), and I have heard so much victim-blaming from therapists saying that their client isn’t getting better because they’re not doing the work. They can’t accept that they aren’t helping the client and that their titles and degrees don’t have any effect in the practical world, so they blame-shift onto the person with less power to maintain their delusion of superiority. It’s straight up out of the narcissist playbook.