• Guns4Gnus@lemmy.ca
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    1 year ago

    Maybe, we as men, not so much society start pushing that, instead of waiting for others to do it for us.

    We need to counter Lad Culture with telling them that talking about their feelings isn’t a pussy action. That we don’t have to wait for a wife to use as a therapist and surrogate mother.

    When you see men pushing the toxic policies of “suck it up” on other guys with no cares to the background information, we need to call out the toxicity.

    Things won’t get better so long as we enable the worst

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      1 year ago

      Friends and family are the best, or at least the first therapist you should see. An actual therapist is required when the other two failed. That’s how a sane family or group of friends should work at least.

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        1 year ago

        Often, found family for finding that assistance.

        Another thing that we as men don’t want to admit (generalized statement,) are that traumas we suffer can often come from a familial source, and that distrust can poison our attempts to reach out to others.

        Worse, those traumas can give improper perceptions about how a family works, and give frustrations due to finding out that your previously assumed normal life was in reality quite damaging for viewpoints when confronting how all the easy lessons we were taught were dead, decayed, and buried by 1970, if not earlier, and we’re working on tertiary information from unreliable sources that are grasping to the past to maintain control in their own lives.