I don’t actually know when my friend’s kid’s birthday is. But if they mention it’s coming up, I’ll engage them about their plans and if they’ve asked for anything in particular for a birthday present.

I’ll bet that protocol is going to vary a lot depending on the age of the children and how close you are with their parents. If you’re related to them, however distantly, it’s probably more acceptable to wish them a happy birthday directly.

I am not close to the kids but friends with the mother so birthday wishes go to her. Happy bday to your son, etc.

Similarly my own mother gives me bday wishes from acquaintances of her I barely saw once in my life. I don’t care for these, I know my friend’s kid doesn’t care about me or my wishes, but it seems to be something mothers appreciate. So, whatever. I just say happy birthday.

I don’t. In fact, I don’t send birthday wishes to anyone unless they’re really close family/friends. Otherwise it just seems fake, there’s no point wishing someone if it doesn’t come from your heart.

Nope. And i have close friends I’ve known for about 40 years.

Nieces, nephews & godchildren.

Nope.

If I remember, yeah.

They all have the same birthday, so all the time.

They get a card

If I know the kids and they know me well enough that they call me “uncle”, then yes.

whi yes i do not