The original post: /r/mildlyinfuriating by /u/Nervous_Cranberry196 on 2024-09-29 23:42:30.

I’ve always had a mean older sister - bullied me since the day my feet touched the floor. Did anything she could do to get me in trouble with our parents. A few years ago a cousin called me to say my sister has been coming over to visit her parents for decades telling lies about me to turn them against me.

About 15 years ago she was in some therapy and called me to say “I have to make a list of 10 people I’ve hurt and call an apologize to them. Guess what baby brother, today’s the day you’ve always waited for. I have always lied about you to our family to turn them against you so that they’ll like me more. I’m sorry”.

I told her to go f*** herself. She wasn’t going to change, I was the low hanging fruit on her list. She was going to hang up and move on and continue to lie about me. That’s exactly what she did.

My dad died when I was younger and my mom died a few years ago. When my mom died back in 2017 I was sitting there with my family mere hours after she died and watched them like vultures zooming in with “I want the tv. I want her couch. I want her car” despite the fact she had willed 50/50 to my sister and me. My sister was more than happy to be the golden goose and give people what they wanted. At this moment I realized how toxic the family was towards me and cut contact with everyone. My sister had poisoned (most) of the relationships in the group on both sides. My mom was the glue keeping me there and now she was gone.

So a couple years ago my grandmother died. I was away on vacation when it happened. I found out because an uncle tagged someone I knew and it showed up on my social media. I knew the day the funeral was also. I wouldn’t have attended anyways… going no contact is the healthiest thing I’ve ever done for myself.

11 days later (after the funeral) my sister emailed me. Subject: “thought you might want to know”. The email was simply a copy paste of the obituary and funeral arrangements. It was yet another way for her to let me know she screwed me over “oh… did I neglect to tell you before the funeral…? My bad…”

Fortunately I already knew and had decided I didn’t want to reinsert myself into a connection with anyone. I waited a couple days then wrote her a long email describing what an asshole she always has been. That I already knew (didn’t say how). And how amazing my life is now that she’s not in it. I also told her to never contact me again.

I gotta admit my finger hovered over the send button for a few moments before submitting it. There’s no going back once you pull that trigger. My life is a utopia now. The people I surround myself with are like minded, caring, and we look out for each other. But I no longer have someone in my life whose primary goal whenever she sees me is to get me upset just so she can say “see? Look how angry he is? I told you so”