• kang@lemmy.ml
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    3 hours ago

    No matter how hard you try, how loud you cry, some people will never change.

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    5 hours ago

    Not too late but later than I should have:

    • To seek professional mental health help
    • To understand that Bisexuality really exists. Growing up and in my teens in media and pop culture it’s seemed that you either were gay or straight, no other option.
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    When someone is abusive or hurtful to you, 90% of the time it’s not your fault. It’s that there is something wrong or something broken in them. They are malfunctioning and it’s necessary to understand that.

    The other 10%… Well, own that and fix your mistake.

    But a very large majority of the time, it’s them being broken and wrong.

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    People just don’t care about you that much, if you go into the street wearing nail polish as a a male presenting person no one will care if you don’t act weird about it. Same thing for shaving your legs.

    Family might care though, what helped me was understanding that I spend a few days per year with my family maximum, but I spend that whole time with myself. So who cares what they think be yourself.

    This helped me start transitioning at 19

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      I don’t want to transition. I am 100% male and this will not change, but I still wanna dress sometimes like a gothic queen. Will happen for Halloween.

      But I still feel like people care. Even small changes on me get attention. I guess it depends if you learned lots of peoplr and friends in University or not.

      I think when Learning new people, it might have an influence. But idk. I never tried it because I am afraid.

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    9 hours ago

    That I have moderately severe to severely severe ADHD and I’m on the autism spectrum.

    Makes functioning as an adult quite difficult.

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        If I had known when I was rather younger, I probably could have done much better in school, and would likely have been a bit more successful–in many ways–than I have been.

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          I did great in school. Maybe I would have accomplished more after school. Good diagnosed in my mid 30s.

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            I did great in art school, because everything was working with my hands, and still required a high degree of thought/creativity. I did terribly when I was in school for engineering (prior to art school) because I just couldn’t focus on calculus and physics, even though it shouldn’t have been that difficult.

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    I’m not sure it’s ever too late to learn anything. Unless you are dead.

    But I do wish I’d been able to feel ok about my body as a teenager, the anorexia was harmful to my bones & heart, so I guess technically I learned too late to value my body, or learned it too late to avoid damage anyway, though I’m pretty healthy overall now. I think almost all teenagers are uncomfortable with their looks in some way, at least they were back then.