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      I’m 40. I don’t even answer the phone if it rings. If it’s important they can leave a message.

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        Which I’ll check in a few days. If it’s important, and they are pinned underneath a vehicle about to die, they can send a voice memo.

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      Sorry if I don’t think minor topics are worthy of the immediate attention needed for a phone call?

      Phone calls are reserved for emergencies. Otherwise you’re just demanding the instant attention of someone for nothing.

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          I like to compare calling to someone knocking on your door incessantly for several seconds.

          You can ignore it or decline to answer. It’s still annoying af.

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          So why call in the first place? And how will I ever know what the call was about? Unless you text, of course, so why not just do that in the first place?

          You may not intent for it to be a demand, but unless you have your phone on silent, it will keep ringing and making noise until you do something about it. It demands an action, and tries to get your attention as much as possible.

          Which is why it’s designated to emergencies. This makes calling more useful as well, because now you know calls are more important, and can actually treat them with more urgency. Otherwise you’re just gonna end up ignoring what may be an actual emergency, because you treat every phone call the same.

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            Gen X here, only had a smartphone 5 years as before I was avoiding it. Typing is painful. Just answer the phone and we’ll get that query sorted in less time than I would take to type the initial question. Don’t be a big baby about it.

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              Millennial here and totally agree. There are times I don’t feel like talking and I simply don’t answer. How hard is it to answer normally though? If it’s not during work hours… If I’m busy I just call back. No idea why this is a weird awkward thing for so many

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              Did you know, as with most things, typing on a phone is a skill that improves with use. Get with the times, don’t be a big baby about it

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                Did you know that brain plasticity decreases with age? It means learning new skills becomes progressively harder and harder and harder.

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                  You specifically chose not to use smart phones until 5 years ago by your own admission, and are actively refusing to attempt to learn the new skill, get out of here with your brain plasticity argument. You’re doing this to yourself and ridiculing others

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                    Like avoiding mobile phones for as long as I could was doing something to myself rather than doing something for myself. Also, I ain’t getting out of here with my brain plasticity argument because if I am going to be mindful of PTSD and autism and all the other conditions that I am going to be mindful of then people can be mindful of my ageing brain and more recently the very real brain fog that can be the result of Covid (my memory has gone to shit since I had it.)

                    As I have said elsewhere if there’s a genuinely good reason for not phoning then I won’t but the one condition I’m not respecting is a chronic fear that one day they might do something that is convenient to someone else.

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              If it was not important enough to type it out, you can tell me next time we meet. I’ll stop answering your call after the second nonsense call you make.

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              I hate typing too but having to answer a phone call triggers PTSD. NOPE.

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                If it’s genuine PTSD then you have my every sympathy and I hope that you can get some peace from it.

                Nobody I’m calling have anything worse than lazyitis.

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                r/conservative might be a safe space where you feel more comfortable. Where feelings don’t matter and racism is acceptable, as long as it’s not anti-white. Seems you’re tRiGgErED bY wOkEnEsS

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                I could but I honestly don’t want to, it would take time and be a long post. If you really are in therapy you can talk with your therapist about the issue. But so I won’t let you go empty handed the simplest point: it’s a phone, it’s there to primarily make calls. Yes, in the last decade it finally got access to the internet; something I wished for for at least 20 years, but nevertheless, it’s a phone. It exists to make phone calls. If that’s really a big problem for you it’s not the phones problem, it’s not the caller’s problem, it’s your problem.

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          When you decline a call you don’t know what it’s about. The only thing I can think of when I family member calls and I decline a call is that they needed desperate help/were in an emergency and I just hung up on them.

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          Except the problem is I don’t know what the call is about so you’re asking me to make a except/declined decision with no information.

          If you send a text message I have the information.

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        Phone calls aren’t reserved for anything. They’re just phone calls. I’m a huge introvert but it’s like in one particular way millions of people decided to try and be the most annoying introvert possible

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      I don’t think all zoomers are, but a LOT of the people I know are TERRIFIED of phone calls. I was like that too, before I started applying for jobs and had to make like 3 calls a week.

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        Yeah, I’m a millennial and use to have terrible phone anxiety. It prevented me from being able to get a job for a long time. I would always try to go in person instead because it was less anxiety inducing but never got a job that way.

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        That’s about outgoing calls. Incoming calls still will be fullscreen pop-ups

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          Depends on the status of the phone when the call arrives.

          One thing I enjoy about the Pixel phone experience is the call screening feature. Having a transcript of the callers reason for calling has been a great bonus!

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      It’s more of a Millenial thing. I’m 35 and I don’t pick up the phone ever unless it’s an emergency or a job interview.

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        I’m 36 and if you want to call me, then fine? Who cares? I don’t get why it’s such a big deal.

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          Because people suck, and they tend to be more rude on the phone. I don’t want to deal with it.

          Not to mention that the only time my phone rings, it’s almost always a scam. I prefer not to engage with bullshitters.

          If it’s important, then text me.

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          I don’t if you won’t text me. So it’s on you.

          Furthermore, in a real emergency, people tend to blow up your phone. So if someone is calling multiple times, of course I’ll answer, if nothing more than to yell at them for blowing up my phone.

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      Also almost 40. Fuck synchronous communications. Inferior in every possible way.

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        How can you even say that? If that’s how you live, no doubt this philosophy causes you issues at least once a week. You’d rather know that [insert major life event] happened…later… and instead of finding out immediately and confirming it/responding to it, you can try to call them later only for it now to be a hassle because they’re not answering, and the only email you have goes to some dumbass ai bot. Yeah so much more convenient than picking up a phone on occasion, when it’s important

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          Or the exact same thing happens and you can’t even get a response to them because you’re relying on a synchronous mode of communication which requires both parties to be engaged at the same time …

          Or you could just send them a message and they’ll see it when they look.