No judgement here please! Everyone should be free to speak their truth.

  • Nikolett Ingénue@lemmynsfw.com
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    1 year ago

    I have been judged for being into CNC, DDLG and even for enjoying being choked 😭

    Sadly this judgement is mostly from fellow women who assume a woman couldn’t possibly be into these things by herself and that it has to mean a man forced me to pretend I am into them. I think this is a stupid take that takes away from the autonomy of women.

    Also someone legit kink shamed me about DDLG saying that people who are into that are either p*dophiles or enabling p*dophilia. And that with the knowledge/specification that all parties involved are consenting adults, and they even continued insisting on this judgment after I also specified that there are no other inappropriate power dynamics/imbalances at play. That really pissed me off.

    • Kim@lemmynsfw.com
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      1 year ago

      What are those acronyms? CNC stands for something very non-sexy in my world.

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        1 year ago

        I had such a hard time with choking. I’m too afraid I would crush their windpipe, when I was in my 20’s. I only really did the choking when she wanted my belt to do it herself. Self choking with a belt is a good way to die.

        Now I have control and understand how to safely cut off blood supply and not totally close the airway.

        But it’s been a decade since I was with a woman last.

        • LowtierComputer@lemmy.world
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          2 months ago

          Don’t push the windpipe at all! You should be applying pressure to the blood vessels behind and to the sides of the windpipe.