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Cake day: 2023年8月29日

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  • DUDE i just LOVE the hustle and bustle of the big city, it’s so DYNAMIC and makes me feel like i’m in one of my favourite TV SHOWS. you should totally come on down to my studio apartment, it’s got EXPOSED RED BRICK walls and everything, we can crack open a nice hoppy ipa or three and get crazy watching some cartoons on adult swim! and dude, dude, DUDE, we have GOTTA go down to the barcade- listen here, right, it’s a BAR where us ADULTS who do ADULTING can go DRINK. BUT!!! it’s also an ARCADE like when we were kids, so we can play awesome VIDEO GAMES, without dumb kids bothering us. speaking of which megan and i have finally decided to tie the knot- literally -we’re both getting snipped tomorrow at the hospital, that way we can save money to spent more on ourselves and our FURBABIES. i’m fuckin JACKED man, i’m gonna SLAM this craft beer and pop open another one!!!


  • A big part of it is just choosing the right instance. If you have any niche hobbies or interests, try to find an instance catering to that. My first mastodon account was on mastodon.social and I really didn’t like the experience, since most posts seemed to be about American politics and IT.

    But then I found an instance catering to heavy metal fans, and the experience has been much better. When you find a good instance, you can find interesting accounts to follow just by visiting the local timeline. Then, as other said, there are hashtags. And sometimes, you can open the federated timeline too, and just look randomly.

    I really like that aspect of Mastodon because it feels like the old old Internet where you found interesting stuff mainly accidentally and by searching for things you’re into.

    Now that I’m mentioning the very old internet, I’m reminded of StumbleUpon and I wonder if some implementation of that would work on the Fediverse for finding communities and accounts. Basically you’d tell the system your interests and then it would give you random stuff based on that.


  • I still believe all the big subs are just bots. Yes, social media communities tend toward an echo-chamber (that’s true on Lemmy and Mastodon depending on your instance and the people and communities you follow) but Reddit’s echo chambers are on another level. It’s basically that “danger to our democracy” video in written form.

    I like to be surprised on the Internet. I like to hear and read something I haven’t heard or read before, and on Reddit, outside of some niche small communities, that’s not possible anymore. I suppose a part of it is because the powermods have way too much power on Reddit and they’re very ban happy even for total bullshit. So over time, only bots and people who can conform to the ever tightening rules stay on.


  • Uh, you kind of hit on and conflate several different points here. I am younger than you (33) but I do remember that era of “dumb cell phone” when people expected you to be able to pick up their call at any time. And yes, it was annoying.

    But that’s what it was. Annoying. Not traumatic or upsetting, just annoying.

    Hell, I know a lot of people whose boundary is “no phone calls unless (list of super serious things like someone died) or we text first and agree on a phone call” and when someone potentially has that boundary and then panicks when they get a phone call outside of it, the solution might be a little more advanced than “seek help”.

    Nope, the solution is still “seek help” because that’s an unhealthy and maladaptive boundary. You should be able to take a phone call as an adult without panicking. At most, it should cause you annoyance and dealing with annoyance properly is one of the main skills of adulthood.