He’s giving strong weird relative at a family dinner table vibes by saying offensive things and then trying to ease the situation by saying “it’s just a joke, relax, you can’t take a joke!?” There’s a big difference between being funny and being an attention seeker.
Exactly. Blaming others before recognizing your own shortcomings is a shitty strategy and it will only serve to alienate people who could otherwise be your champion if you didn’t attack them.