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Super cool work! Stuff like this can be forgotten so easily.

No kidding, wow! So rich.

One of my favorite parts of living in SF were these dumb billboards. They’re so bad - though this one is a bit more dystopian than most.

My new name/pronouns felt really foreign to me for a long time honestly. I used they/them for a while until i felt “femme enough” for she/her (whatever that means) and these days i’m they/she.

It just took some time for that to go away. Other people gendering you properly can help reinforce that it’s correct.

It’s so frustrating, because this is an iOS bug, and not an inherent problem with wefwef. Hoping they can find a workaround though!

Great Firefox theme!

I had a 5700xt prior to my current 3060 and I’m very tempted to switch back so I can get rid of nvidia’s drivers, getting Wayland functional has been a disaster for me.

I just switched them like a couple weeks ago to give macOS another go, so I’m just being lazy 😅

Ugh, I bet that quick whiplash of real support to rejection and denial was really hard. I’m not really sure what’s going on there — AMAB people dressing more feminine is always seen so negatively even by people who purport to be progressive.

A music festival is such a good environment for experimenting with your presentation! Maybe try to make time for that alone if you can?

It’s such a bummer you can’t get in any counseling. I also couldn’t find anyone who took my insurance so I pay out of pocket for it ($85/visit) which sucks.

oh my god the webkit bug is over two years old apple really wants people using the app store jesus

I’m really sorry your wife rejected you like that, that pain will likely stick around for some time. Coming out as nonbinary in a marriage is really tough, my partner actually did not too long ago.

I’m a trans woman, and there were still challenges for me. In theory I should be the most accepting partner and immediately be able to change my brain around, but I found myself confused - having to process things in ways I didn’t anticipate.

Your partner’s brain is probably going crazy right now trying to process your identity, what that means for her identity and you as a couple, then resetting the expectations she had for your collective future. Not to mention processing the potential optics of being perceived as being in a queer relationship in today’s climate. That’s a lot!

How she spoke to you was how she felt in that moment, but doesn’t have to be how she feels forever. If you have the patience and pain tolerance for that process, it’s very possible things will work out.

What’s harder to actually make work is suppressing your identity for the sake of someone you love. It can feel like noble sacrifice, but you’re really not doing either of you a favor long-term. You’ll both feel the facade, but feel dedicated to it and be miserable.

I suppose if I had advice, it’d be to remember that how you both feel in this moment can and will change, and doesn’t have to mean anything big about your relationship unless you want it to. I know I can feel a panic to process and try to repair things, when time and space is actually what’s needed.

Oh, and try to find a decent relationship counselor if you’re both down - though the process of finding someone is certainly discouraging.

I really hope the best for you.

My partner and I pay $200 for the ~$1800/mo healthcare plan through their employer. There was a fully-covered option but the deductibles are so low on this plan it’s incredible.

Yeah, can’t say I have much hope they’ll allow sideloading everywhere, as much as I’d love it. Their restrictions around adult and cannabis-related apps are so silly.

Wow, Homey looks nice. I have a Home Assistant/Homebridge setup I’m pretty happy with, but their UI and integrations seem very enticing.