I went through a long phase of fiddling around. Trying out multiple hypervisors, operating systems, docker containers, etc.

I have settled on the following and only do software updates now. I found stuff I want, have it all set up, and now I want it all to just work. I have daily automated backups so if something gets borked, I just restore. Also use Debian and Debian based for everything. Least amount of headache (for me) and rock solid.

1. Proxmox host and Proxmox Backup Server
2. VM’s - pfSense, Home Assistant and Debian 11 for docker containers
3. Pi-hole, Cloudflared, Vaultwarden and Stirling PDF in LXC’s
4. Docker Containers - UniFi Controller, InvoiceNinja, PiGallery2, LinkAce and Jellyfin
5. NAS - OpenMediaVault with Syncthing
6. Cloudflare Tunnels and Tailscale to have access to everything when out

Pi-hole, Home Assistant and Jellyfin.