• girltwink@lemmy.world
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    It’s crazy how much height subconsciously influences our opinions of each other. I’m tall enough that most men don’t look down at me, and I’m widely respected professionally. Men listen when i talk in meetings, and it’s very easy to sell my ideas to people. My shorter coworkers who are more talented than i am struggle to gain respect.

    My ex is 5’2" and i have very strong feelings of cute aggression towards her, and have to consciously remind myself to consider her opinions sometimes. It doesn’t help that she acted like a child a lot during our relationship 😒

    • The Picard Maneuver@startrek.websiteOP
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      There have been studies showing that bosses tend to be larger (both height and weight) than average, with the trend increasing as you go up the ladder.

      US Presidents are typically tall too.

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          I’m short and have a pretty high voice (been told I sound lile a child on more than one occasion). Every job I’ve had to work so much harder than everyone else to get ahead. Fortunately for me the field I’m in performance is based off of metrics that I excel at so I pretty much out perform everyone else by default and that has gotten me noticed and keeps me high on the list when promotions or raises come up. I still get talked over in meetings all the time if I don’t have a more authoritative person to back me up when I have something to say though.

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          Looks like they’re below average (both 5’7"). Then again, I guess they started their own companies in their garages, so there wasn’t an opportunity for selection bias when hiring them.

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      Yeah, it does suck. I get the same benefits as you, and my wife of the same height gets ignored to the point where I have to go to Dr’s appointments with her so they actually listen to her.

      I also have to keep a close check on being upset about anything, because I’m intimidating just by existing, let alone upset.

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        I have to go to Dr’s appointments with her so they actually listen to her

        🤔

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          I had to do this with my ex too 😅 we’re both women but men listen to me. My ex is a combat veteran with ptsd, and it can make her seem unstable, even though she’s incredibly sharp and there’s no one I’d rather have with me in an emergency.

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      Honestly from my observation at work I think it’s more the fact that shorter guys are more insecure or intimidated by taller guys and have less confidence, which affects how they present themselves.

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      We’re still focusing the gender, race, and religion. Next we’ll be able to look at height and appearance. We’ll get there.