• Alto@kbin.social
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    10 months ago

    Should be, and usually is, but if you’ve never been in a healthy relationship you may not expect it. Especially if you’ve been in an unhealthy relationship.

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      10 months ago

      I remember my husband-then-boyfriend being super happy he could just ask me to do stuff and I’d do it. I mean, yeah, of course, that’s how relationships work?

      Took me a long time to figure out that for most of his previous relationship, that really wasn’t so obvious.

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        10 months ago

        That’s pretty much my story as well. Early into the first healthy relationship I was in, my gf stopped by my work to drop me off a donut. Just happened to be shopping nearby and thought of me.

        That shit was outright mindblowing to me at the time considering I had a negative sense of self worth. Guess it still is to an extent, but I don’t get the overwhelming “oh God oh fuck I don’t deserve this” feeling I used to.

        E: sp