One of my friends I suspect has narcissism and/or BPD. Which is fine if you’re medicated, but now with that knowledge I can’t help but think of all the potential lies that only existed to ellicit empathy or ruin someone else’s reputation out of insecurity.
Now I’m uncertain if their recent “extremely rare life threatening medical condition that may kill them unexpectedly in some years or may not” is just another attempt at eliciting empathy.
If they die from it, then I’ll have lost a friend who was telling the truth. If they don’t, then I probably have been maintaining a friendship with someone I wouldn’t really want to be friends with, on grounds of being an unmedicated narcissist.
Or maybe they got lucky and their condition just didn’t kill them. I’ll never know. Given their history of lying and starting drama, I would rather have never introduced this friend to my core group. Too much of my social anxiety hinges on this person dying, but I can’t talk about it with any of my friends because they’re kinda simps when it comes to this person
Making up stories of past and present hardship for sympathy does sound like my ex who was diagnosed with BPD. But not everyone diagnosed behaves the same, and there are several similar disorders in the cluster, plus comorbidities. The diagnoses are really just descriptive anyway. We don’t know enough about our minds to really understand.
Ultimately doesn’t matter. Sounds like you have reason to doubt this person. If you can’t or don’t want to disconnect then all you can do is watch their behavior and react accordingly. If they betray your trust it does really matter why they did it.
One of my friends I suspect has narcissism and/or BPD. Which is fine if you’re medicated, but now with that knowledge I can’t help but think of all the potential lies that only existed to ellicit empathy or ruin someone else’s reputation out of insecurity.
Now I’m uncertain if their recent “extremely rare life threatening medical condition that may kill them unexpectedly in some years or may not” is just another attempt at eliciting empathy.
If they die from it, then I’ll have lost a friend who was telling the truth. If they don’t, then I probably have been maintaining a friendship with someone I wouldn’t really want to be friends with, on grounds of being an unmedicated narcissist.
Or maybe they got lucky and their condition just didn’t kill them. I’ll never know. Given their history of lying and starting drama, I would rather have never introduced this friend to my core group. Too much of my social anxiety hinges on this person dying, but I can’t talk about it with any of my friends because they’re kinda simps when it comes to this person
That doesn’t sound like BPD. Source: BPD
Ah well, what do I know. I’m taking the BPD part from a friend
Making up stories of past and present hardship for sympathy does sound like my ex who was diagnosed with BPD. But not everyone diagnosed behaves the same, and there are several similar disorders in the cluster, plus comorbidities. The diagnoses are really just descriptive anyway. We don’t know enough about our minds to really understand.
Ultimately doesn’t matter. Sounds like you have reason to doubt this person. If you can’t or don’t want to disconnect then all you can do is watch their behavior and react accordingly. If they betray your trust it does really matter why they did it.
Good luck, my friend.