Well if you guys have been friends for years, then hopefully that’s not something that can break over night. It can be worth trying to salvaging that. He could just be saying that in a moment where he felt emotional, then sobered up a few days feeling regretful and cruel. It’s worth reaching out to see if he’d like to keep talking. Fights between friends is normal, and patching it up is even more important. Some people can’t even maintain friends for years like you did, that’s an important skill on its own. And yeah, all I can do is relate to the last stuff cuz I’m also struggling feeling that way. I have friends, but am in a complicated situation where I can’t be with the girl I’m in love with, and she doesn’t feel the same way, but I’m with her 8 hours pretty much every day so it’s pretty painful. I also lost a promotion to a guy I really hate and have to work under him now, so I need to figure out how to navigate that as well this week. Swallowing your ego and going about things is really hard, ya know. I think we’re both going through that.
I don’t know. I switch between being really angry at him for sending me that message in the middle of an episode and for almost crafting it on purpose to hit every fear he knows I have. But it’s important to know that not everything he wrote is bullshit. I can be really difficult to bear when I feel bad, I am prone to saying horrible things like that I’ll put myself into conversion therapy for being gay.
And I switch from anger to bargaining, thinking that there might be some proper combination of words I could say to him where he’ll take me back. But I don’t think so, the tone was very final. There wasn’t even a “good luck” it was just “I’ve had enough, goodbye.” He also made it clear that he believes there was no friendship between us for a long time and he was only tolerating me.
I really think there is nothing to salvage. And what kind of a relationship is that, anyway? Where I’m reduced to begging? Even if he would restart a relationship with me, that’s just a recipe for more resentment down the line.
Well if you guys have been friends for years, then hopefully that’s not something that can break over night. It can be worth trying to salvaging that. He could just be saying that in a moment where he felt emotional, then sobered up a few days feeling regretful and cruel. It’s worth reaching out to see if he’d like to keep talking. Fights between friends is normal, and patching it up is even more important. Some people can’t even maintain friends for years like you did, that’s an important skill on its own. And yeah, all I can do is relate to the last stuff cuz I’m also struggling feeling that way. I have friends, but am in a complicated situation where I can’t be with the girl I’m in love with, and she doesn’t feel the same way, but I’m with her 8 hours pretty much every day so it’s pretty painful. I also lost a promotion to a guy I really hate and have to work under him now, so I need to figure out how to navigate that as well this week. Swallowing your ego and going about things is really hard, ya know. I think we’re both going through that.
I don’t know. I switch between being really angry at him for sending me that message in the middle of an episode and for almost crafting it on purpose to hit every fear he knows I have. But it’s important to know that not everything he wrote is bullshit. I can be really difficult to bear when I feel bad, I am prone to saying horrible things like that I’ll put myself into conversion therapy for being gay.
And I switch from anger to bargaining, thinking that there might be some proper combination of words I could say to him where he’ll take me back. But I don’t think so, the tone was very final. There wasn’t even a “good luck” it was just “I’ve had enough, goodbye.” He also made it clear that he believes there was no friendship between us for a long time and he was only tolerating me.
I really think there is nothing to salvage. And what kind of a relationship is that, anyway? Where I’m reduced to begging? Even if he would restart a relationship with me, that’s just a recipe for more resentment down the line.